Why Girls Cry

I am not a professional. I'm just observant. These are opinions, not facts.

To my fellow females- have you ever been so very, very angry? Yet, instead of being able to fuel that anger into a punch or a kick, you crumble into a mush pile with tears and snot running down your face? Just as scary sometimes, but not nearly as effective.

Not all women know what this feels like (and so I'm not bias, maybe some men do know that feeling), but for those who do- DOESN'T IT SUCK?!

While I don't cry often, I understand why some girls do: It's a release. Some girls are just more emotional than others. Some girls take things out of perspective. Some do it for attention.

To the gentlemen & women who don't cry- I promise you: for many this is not something we want. Crying is exhausting! It's near maddening to be in the middle of an argument when it happens. You are trying to get your point across, but all points are lost once the tears start to flow.

Some of the things that have helped me: 

Being ADD. Seriously! I can be in one of those "I'm so pissed" modes, then I turn on TV- Oh look, Big Bang Theory! YAY! All better.

Deep breathing and perspective: One of many rules I have for life is "If this won't effect my life in five years, this should not matter in five minutes." Imagine I'm incredibly pissed at traffic, had three people cut me off, and I want to break down. I take a deep breath and tell myself "This won't matter five years from now. Get over it." Strangely, it works. At least until the next yahoo cuts me off.

Think of ways to make it better: Did your boyfriend leave you? Did you lose a job? Is crying about it going to change these things? Nope, sorry. It might actually make it worse actually. As you cry, you re-play what upset you. Doing so can actually build the item up in your mind and turn it into a bigger deal than it really is. (See above's five year rule.) Try, instead, to think of ways to fix your problem. IE: Finding a new job, all the fun you'll have dating new cuties, etc. When in doubt, simply stop thinking about things- find a way to zone out or meditate. Focusing on what's wrong will only make it worse- That I Promise!